Intensity and sensitivity are characteristics of the gifted; what we say shapes their view of themselves and our relationships with them. While it is obvious that certain comments may lead gifted individuals to conclude they are not normal or acceptable as they are; parents and teachers can make well-meaning remarks that can be misinterpreted by gifted children, leading to the development of potentially problematic issues such as perfectionism, denying preferred career interests, sibling comparisons, or withholding feelings on sensitive issues. Presenters will facilitate interactive discussion; participants will identify problematic statements and construct alternative responses more likely to foster positive development.